If you don’t write a letter to your grandchildren does that mean you love them less? No.

It does mean you missed an opportunity.

There are many ways you can express love to your grandchildren.

Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages” is an excellent book with a very helpful idea on how best to express love. The basic concept is that everyone has a different love language. Chapman cites five major categories: Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch. Find the one that resonates with your partner and provide it. If your grandchild’s love language is Acts of Service and you provide only the remaining four, you will struggle to satisfy their need to be loved effectively. Find your grandchildren’s love language and use it.

However, you have limited time with your grandchildren and even more limited time with your great grandchildren. Eventually, the only way to express love is through written words after you are gone. Maybe it’s only one the five, maybe it’s not the most effective love language for your great, great granddaughter, but it is something.